Books & Quotes

How Do You Measure a Man?

Here’s a pretty good plumb line:

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stand at times of challenge and controversy. – Martin Luther King Jr.

By Ken

Dr. Ken Cochrum (DMin, Bethel University) is Vice President of Global Digital Strategies at Cru (formerly Campus Crusade for Christ) in Orlando, Florida. An avid cyclist and aspiring guitarist, he also holds a degree in Mechanical Engineering from The University of Texas and a Masters of Arts in Biblical Studies from Dallas Theological Seminary. He recently co-founded, a movement passionate about connecting people to Jesus using digital strategies. He previously served as vice president of Cru’s student-led movements worldwide. He and his wife Ann spent 13 years in East Asia where they raised their two children. Ken blogs regularly at

3 replies on “How Do You Measure a Man?”

The quote from M. L. King is so true! It’s also the ultimate measure of a leader.

I like the one about telling the worth of a man by looking in the eyes of his wife. Not sure who said it, but they said it better than me. Think it says a lot. Wonder how Mrs. King’s eyes looked. Great leader, poor husband. Can you be both?

As a wife myself, I’m probably biased…but I love your quote.
Yes, I think you CAN be a great leader and a poor husband.
But do you WANT to be?
A husband laying down his life for his wife is a picture of Christ laying down his life for his church. A man who disrespects or disregards his wife is misrepresenting Christ to the world.
Personally, I have found it very difficult to work for men who do not honor their wives. I believe how men treat their wives is a usually a telling indicator of their views of women overall…and so I feel that as I interact with them.
This will be a great topic to discuss with my own (amazing!) husband tonight. I would love to hear what other men think about this, too.

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